Counseling

U.S. National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - will provide immediate assistance to individuals in suicidal crisis by connecting them to the nearest available suicide prevention and mental health service provider through a toll-free telephone number: 1-800-273-TALK (8255). It is the only national suicide prevention and intervention telephone resource funded by the Federal Government.

This is a toll free number for most (all?) countries in the world. If you are suicidal right now, please phone them immediately!


Canadians - Centre For Suicide Prevention

GLBT Youth - The Trevor Project For Our Youth

Crisis Chat - Chat service is generally available twelve hours a day, Monday through Friday, with occassional coverage on the weekends.

During times of high volume, a specialist may not be able to talk with you immediately.

If you are in immediate crisis and a chat specialist is unavailable, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or if you are in immediate danger, dial 911.

Crisis Chat is only available in the United States and its territories. If you are outside the US, please check out Unsuicide for a list of online options for help around the world.

You are also welcome to check out our library, screening tools, and resources, regardless of where you live.

What we do on Crisis Chat:

    Listen to what is going on with you today.
    Support you in a non-judgmental and compassionate way.
    Help you explore your feelings, thoughts, and options.
    Ask you questions about suicide and let you know that it’s ok to talk about
        suicide on chat.
    Explore positive next steps and options.

What we do not do on Crisis Chat:

    Give advice.
    Solve your problems.
    Tell you what to do.
    Judge or criticize.
    Chitchat.

Christian Gays is often approached to counsel people with problems related to Christianity and homosexuality. Some people need in-depth counselling. Some just need a one-on-one person to connect with. Fortunately we have been blessed with some wonderful people who have volunteered to be there for you in your time of need.

Some of our volunteers have more formal training than others, but all have felt led to make themselves available to support you in any way they can.

ChristianGays.com takes no responsibility for advice given. This is merely a service of volunteers which we are making available to you.

Click on the link for the name of the person you wish to contact and it will bring up a letter addressed to them. You may write to one or several.

Our Volunteer Counsellors

has a diploma in Biblical studies with Laidlaw college in New Zealand, and I'm also doing a diploma in health and human behavior through the open polytechnic of New Zealand. I have been a Christian since I was 15 and I'm 38 now. I am also gay. I put God first in my life and in everything I do.

I am a member of the Auckland Baptist Tabernacle here in New Zealand and I've been attending that for about nine years now.

I've been through depression, grief, loneliness, rejection, and I also suffer from Asperger syndrome. I enjoy helping people in need, and I'm prepared to support others via Yahoo Messenger and Skype.

has been in the US for the past 15 years. I was raised in a Pentecostal church in Caracas and I always thank God for giving me the opportunity to learn about Him at such young age. The notion of His existence and mercy has given me the courage to overcome the many challenges of my life.

My parents were divorced, and I knew that I was "different". Although I was heavily involved in the religious and social activities of my church I always felt isolated and shameful for being who I was. It was only with the help of the Holy Spirit that I came to the understanding that the Lord loves me and that His love is unconditional.

I have an undergraduate degree in Education and Psychology, and have a private practice as a Professional Life Coach where I assist many with challenges regarding self esteem, lack of motivation, divorce, separation, communication skills, conflict resolution, family dynamics, etc.

was married for 15 years and has two great sons, ages 19 and 16.

I struggled with my decision to come out, but my hand was forced somewhat with the loss of a job in early 2001 due to my sexuality. I now live a much happier, more fulfilled life. I work hard to stay as involved as time allows in Church. I have served as a Youth Leader in the LifeTeen Program as well as a Eucheristic Minister.

I have a Bachelors degree in Psychology as well as a Specialist degree (above a masters and below a doctorate) in School Psychology. I worked for 9 years as a School Psychologist in the local school system.

Since 1990 I have facilitated groups for the Alcohol & Drug Abuse Council, Houma City Court, The Haven (A shelter for Domestic Violence Victims), Houma Family Violence Council, The Batterer's Intervention Program for Lafourche Parish and for Annunziata Tutoral Center.

I have been a Principal/School Administrator for an Alternative School for Expelled Students, a Program Director for a Mental Health Rehabilitation Program, a Therapist on an Adolescent Psychiatric Unit, a Manager of a Psychiatric Unit and the Admissions Coordinator of and Emergency Department.

In November of 2005 I earned my MBA in Health Care Mangement and I am now a Manager of Patient Accounts for a large Multi-specialty Physician Practice in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.

It was indeed a long journey to self acceptance and being able to mergy my life to include being a gay Christian. I would be more than happy to work with you in your search for acceptance of self and dealing with your religous beliefs. Please feel free to contact me.

- is a straight Christian mom who would fight like a bear to protect and nourish her cubs. Born after World War II in Berlin, Germany, she immigrated to the United States at the age of four. She was raised in the Mormon church (Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints) with a strong faith in Christ. At twenty-one, she served a two-year mission for her church in Austria. After her mission, Bridget became a hairdresser in Las Vegas, where she had lived most of her life. Subsequently, she taught Beauty School in Tampa, Florida while raising three children and putting her husband through medical school. Teaching as a missionary, in church callings, or as a Beauty School Instructor, has always been one of her greatest gifts. Sometimes, she thinks she should have received her degree in psychology, as well as her hairdresser's license. Customers in her salon, friends, family members, and people at church love to open up to her. Empathy, understanding, and emotional intimacy are as natural to Bridget as breathing.

While growing up, she loved writing letters. Bridget discovered that sharing feelings on paper was therapeutic. So, when she found out that her son had a same-sex attraction and that he had been writing to a young gay man in Denmark for a year, she wanted to know who this person was that had been influencing her son. As she began writing this Danish man, all of her natural and developed skills served her well. She quickly connected on an emotional level, and her ability to persuade, challenge, and defend her beliefs, intrigued him. For her, it was a blessing to have something productive to do during this crisis.

Too often, authors are acknowledged only if they have a long list of degrees behind their names. Bridget Night represents mothers everywhere who instinctively use all their nurturing and emotional gifts to save their children. Every weapon in their spiritual arsenal is displayed during times of emergency. Her book, Prayers for Johnathan demonstrates the creative ability mothers have and is a tribute to all those currently engaged in spiritual warfare. Heavenly Father took her on a 10 year journey to discover that SHE was the one that needed to change.

See Bridget's book, Prayers For Jonathan

Note from Mary: Bridget's beliefs have evolved, and she is no longer a member of the Mormon Church.

is a 41 year old gay Christian Minister in Louisville, KY. He is not a pulpit minister, but prefers to reach out to those in his community one on one to spread God's Word. He is currently a Firefighter/EMT in Louisville, having heard God's calling that there was still more he could do.

He received his B.A. in Psychology from Miami University of Ohio and holds church-issued diplomas in Philosophy of Religion, Religious Studies, Theology, and Crisis Chaplaincy. He also holds the title of Knight Third Class of the Order of Knights of St. Luke's Evangelical Christian Ministries for his in-depth studies.

Russ has worked in the medical field as an EMT, in the health and fitness field as a Massage Therapist and Personal Trainer, and as a para-professional counselor for a Crisis Intervention Center.

In 2003 he was called into service as an ordained Minister and now holds ordainment through three separate religious organizations. He has intervention and counseling experience with drug and alcohol abuse and addictions with friends, partners, and family. And he has experience in counseling HIV from detailed research he has conducted since being diagnosed himself.

Often as a young adult going through the trials and tribulations of being gay Russ found himself asking God, "Where were you when I needed you?" And one day when he (Russ) finally chose to listen, God responded with, "My child, you're still alive aren't you?"

It was shortly after that epiphany Russ began to hear the call that God was whispering to him. God had chosen this life for him so that he could understand and reach out with his heart wherever God placed him, and help others who are pulled away from God's perfect love by those who would condemn in the name of Christ. We were put here to help one another and to glorify God however we can. God is Love. We are of Him. And we are loved.

was born in 1940 in New York City. He is straight, married, and has 2 grown daughters, and is a retired professor of sociology at California State University, Chico, but still teaches two courses a semester.

Jerry believes that gay people are one of God's gifts to the Church and to secular society as well, and there is nothing in the Bible that condemns same-sex love!

"The false gospel of legalism and perfectionism seems to have overtaken much of the "Church" and its discriminatory attitude, and behavior toward LGBT people is a major example of that false gospel."

Jerry has a weekly column in the Sacramento Valley Mirror entitled, "Christianity and Society", and he also has two websites, Radical Christianity and A Christian Voice For Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, And Transgender Rights.

As a University Professor for the last 36 years, and as moderator of "Husbands Out to their Wives", has counselled many about relationship problems and marriage breakups.

He is not trained except by practice, and thus can only offer experiences of others, including his own, of coming out late in life with three grown children (two in right-wing religious positions). D would be willing to be an ear and an advisor.

Our Professional Counsellors

These are professional therapists who charge for their services.

, Psy.D., LCPC is a Psychologist, practicing in Chicago's northwest suburbs. She practices individual and family therapy for adults and teens. She enjoys helping clients through the "coming out" process as they work to build lives full of community, intimate connections with others, a meaningful personal faith, and family. She specializes in helping people who are working to integrate their faith and their sexuality. She is open to doing a free telephone consultation for people who have additional questions about her approach. She is affiliated with Samaritan Counseling Center.

Matthew Smith - Psy.D, Licensed Clinical Psychologist with a professional psychotherapy practice in the San Francisco Bay area of California. I provide assessment and counseling to the GLBT community who are seeking guidance with personal growth or relief from emotional distress. I have a particular interest in helping gay Christians integrate their sexuality and spirituality in a non-judgmental way and provide them with an experience where they feel respected for their values and beliefs.

An Article which may be helpful for our Counsellors is
Using Theory to Understand Gay and Lesbian Identity Development.

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